There are times when people become spiritually wounded even after becoming born-again Christians. Some spiritual wounds can be unintentional by a family member, a Christian friend or even a Christian leader. Some are the result of personality conflicts between Christians. Some hurts are perceived when there has been no offense. However, to be clear, sometimes Christian intentionally wound other Christians. People, even Christians, are not exempted from hurting others.
No matter how a puncture in the soul gets there, it still hurts! However, before any restoration and healing can occur, the wounded believer must forgive the person or persons who inflicted the wound. Forgiveness must occur because the healing process cannot begin before unconditional forgiveness. If you do not forgive, demonic oppression from the enemy of your soul, can cause the wound to fester, resulting in a spirit of rejection and other demonic oppression. John 10:10 states that thief (the devil) comes only to steal, kill, and destroy. That is his job. Forgiveness prevents that demonic influence and shortens the healing process. In addition to that, forgiveness activates the second half of John 10:10 which states, “Jesus came so that you may have life, and that you may have it (life) more abundantly.” Now, make this a personal declaration by saying:
“I choose to forgive (Name the Person or Persons Who Hurt You) for hurting me. I place my hurts and my brokenness at the feet of Jesus. I choose forgiveness, not anger and unforgiveness; healing, not wounds and brokenness; and peace, not discord and strife. I receive the abundant life that you, Jesus, came to this earth to give me in John 10:10.”
David is a biblical example of a person who received numerous hurts, numerous times from sources that were least expected. He was mistreated by his family members. Remember when Samuel in 1 Samuel 16 came to anoint David as King and Jesse paraded seven of his sons before Samuel and God told Samuel they were not the ones. So Samuel asked Jesse if he had any other sons. Jesse then replied, “ There is still the youngest, but he is tending the sheep.” Samuel told Jesse to send for David. Samuel anointed David to be the next king when he arrived. David had been dissed by his own father—that must have hurt! The Bible, however, does not record that David harbored anger or unforgiveness toward his father or other family members.
One of the most memorable of his injustices was his treatment at the hands of King Saul. David had saved Israel from the Philistines by killing the giant, Goliath. He won numerous battles for Israel and yet, instead of rewarding David, Saul sought to kill him multiple times. Saul saw the writing on the wall; he saw the anointing on David’s life. He was jealous of David’s anointing and the victories that David won against Israel’s enemies, so he sought to kill David multiple times.
David was wounded and broken by the maliciousness of Saul and cried out to God to save him. He never sought vengeance upon Saul. He knew that he was innocent, yet he never held unforgiveness in his heart towards the king who he saw as God’s anointed. He kept his focus on God, his anchor, deliverer and healer.
David’s faith in God stemmed from his history with the true and living God. That assurance came from the years that David spent communing with God as he shepherded his father’s flocks in the wilderness. In those times, David gained dependence on God; he learned to bask in God’s presence; and he learned to trust God to defend him and his flock against all dangers, including harmful animals. David was the shepherd of his flock, but God was his Shepherd. David stated in Palm 23:1 and 4:
“The Lord is my shepherd, (verse 1) . . . (and) Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil: for thou art with me. . .” (verse 4).
So that trust that he experienced as a shepherd helped him to trust in God as he fled from Saul. That trust helped him to look to the victory and not harbor unforgiveness toward Saul. Psalms 52, 56 and 59 the books of Samuel recounts David’s numerous suffering at the hands of Saul.
In Psalm 59:2-4, when King Saul sent men to David’s house to kill him, David cries out to God for deliverance:
“Deliver me from evildoers and save me from those who are after my blood. See how they lie in wait for me! Fierce men conspire against me for no offense or sin of mine, Lord. I have done no wrong, yet they are ready to attack me.”
David then focuses on God as his strength and restorer—the one constant in his life. In Psalm 59:16 and 17, he proclaims his trust in God.
“But I will sing of your strength, in the morning I will sing of your love; for you are my forstress, my refuge in times of trouble. You are my strength, I sing praise to you; you, God, are my forstress, my God on whom I can rely.”
Christians must keep their focus on the Lord; they cannot focus on the cause of the pain or even the pain itself. That would be a demonic trap! Do seek prayer and counsel from Christian leaders, but do not look to or focus on a man or woman to mend the wounded heart. That would be an unnatural dependency that could easily morph into some form of idolatry. Primary dependence and focus should always be on God, the Author and Finisher of a believer’s faith and theWord of God.
This reliance on the Lord is born out by developing an unceasing prayer life—praying in the natural and in the spirit. Prayer must never be a one-way street. Believers must listen to the Lord. Prayer is two-way communication. This is crucial!
Remember, spiritual warfare in every trial is a constant; it is a fight against the enemy of a believer’s soul. A wounded heart is a demonic attack; it is not from God! So the fight starts with forgiveness, then unceasing prayer (in the spirit and in the natural). It also requires the full armor of God as stated in Ephesians 6:10-18:
The belt of truth, verse 14; the breastplate of righteousness, verse 14; shoes with the preparation of the gospel of peace, verse 15; the shield of faith, verse 16; the helmet of salvation, verse 17; and the sword of the spirit (Word of God), verse 17.
We need that full armor of God. Ephesians 6:12 states:
“For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms.”
Trust in and keep your focus on God and his unfailing love, beloved! He will never leave you or forsake you. You can count on that!
As for those of you who have been healed from wounds to the heart, find someone to pray for and to mentor. You may find that you have spiritual discernment as to those who are hurting, so pray when you perceive that someone has a broken heart.
Be blessed, my friends.